spot a bro WHO’S feeling low

It can often be tricky spotting a friend who’s struggling. This page will provide you with some useful approaches and suggestions.


Helping a friend is easy when you know how. Follow these four steps to let the conversation flow.

1 Ask

Start by mentioning anything different you’ve noticed. Maybe he’s spending more time at the bar, coming into work late, or missing social events.

“You’ve not quite seemed yourself recently. Are you okay?”

Trust your instinct. Remember, we often say “I’m fine” when we’re not. So if you think something’s wrong, don’t be afraid to ask twice.

2 Listen

Try to give him your full attention, without interruptions. Don’t feel you have to diagnose problems, offer solutions or give advice. Just let him know you’re all ears, judgement-free.

Follow-up questions are good too. They’ll help let him know you’re listening:

“That can’t be easy. How long have you felt that way?”

3 encourage

Help him to focus on simple things that might improve his wellbeing: Is he getting enough sleep, exercising regularly, and eating properly? Maybe there’s something that's helped before?

Suggest he tells other people he trusts how he's feeling. This will make things easier – for both of you. And if he’s felt low for more than two weeks, suggest he sees his doctor.

4 Check-In

Suggest you catch up soon – in person if you can. If you can’t manage a meet-up, make time for a call, or drop him a message. This will show you care. Plus, you’ll get a feel for whether he’s feeling any better.

If you’re worried that somebody’s life is in immediate danger, go directly to emergency services.



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Further help & contacts

Provides one-stop access to U.S. government mental health and mental health problems information.

Created by the Interagency Working Group on Youth Programs (IWGYP) to promote the goal of positive, healthy outcomes for youth.


is a men’s depression resource originally funded by Movember and provides guys with information and practical tips to manage and prevent depression.